Column: Has alternative culture killed romance?

[JennyPiccolo]

I apologise in advance for my Carrie Bradshaw-esque endless rhetoric, but in a subculture where bisexuality, promiscuity, and open relationships are not unusual, where does it leave the soft-hearted young fools like me?

I'm sick of only consummating a relationship after fourteen pints of diesel, or lying alone between bouts of intercourse while the eager young man fucks off for a joint or a game on the Playstation, or worse, to write on the forum. I'm sick of chat-up lines like 'I'd cheat on my girlfriend for you' or 'It's five to three, if you were gonna pull someone better, you would have by now'. Have we always been cold, hard people, or do we just treat each other badly because that's the way we're always treated, just because we're different?

To look at, I'm hardly a beacon of alternative culture, but it's the only 'scene' if you will, where I've been able to feel comfortable. As an essentially weird person, I only ever felt I fit in...

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[Brookie]

Originally Posted by bunnylingus

Well sed. Lis I love ya n uve always got me (cheesy but its true) and if you get sad Ill drink lots of cider and entertain ya for hours with my stupidness.

Would like to point out that until youre 40 and gettin desperate i dont c anything wrong with just having fun, long-term relationships often lead to heartache when one person falls in love and the other one falls out.
Im just lucky, but I didnt find my man through drunken chat, we were friends first.

Anyhoo, rambling a bit now. Point is, if you want romance you may have to look.

I never found the person in question through drunken chat tho. The rest however is very true especially the bit in bold. They do say good thing s come to those who wait, and tis not the guiness im talking about for a change.

[Bunnylingus]

Having just properly read the first thread I would like to point out that I dont hate anyone because of the group that they belong to or indeed because of the group I supposedly belong to.

Maybe if you didnt spend so much time trying to scrutinize the culture and look to yourself you might see that you arent getting a longterm relationship because you go home with people that you dont know/have met in a club two hours beforehand. This you will find in ANY club, dance music, r n b or metal.

Perhaps if you want a guy to buy you flowers, you should give him your phone number and go on a date. I think a real issue is what happened to the dating culture?

[MarkMono]

It went the way of marital fidelity and staying together for the children.

[Pier Angeli]

there is no dating culture in britain. it's just shagging. dates are for americans!

[Strider C.R.U.X.]

Although I did get to do some research last night

After 2 bottles of wine and 6 pints of cider and black Strider is NOT romantic

I can cry like a motherfucker though

[Kenny Everett]

Red wine?

Red wine and Cider are my killer drinks, I don't like surrendering my rational nature to them.

[JennyPiccolo]

Originally Posted by bunnylingus

Having just properly read the first thread I would like to point out that I dont hate anyone because of the group that they belong to or indeed because of the group I supposedly belong to.

Maybe if you didnt spend so much time trying to scrutinize the culture and look to yourself you might see that you arent getting a longterm relationship because you go home with people that you dont know/have met in a club two hours beforehand. This you will find in ANY club, dance music, r n b or metal.

Perhaps if you want a guy to buy you flowers, you should give him your phone number and go on a date. I think a real issue is what happened to the dating culture?

Would people please stopmaking this so personal. I am in a relationship, I am perfectly able to communicate with the rest of humankind, and the article wasn't about men I've randomly met in clubs. It's about men I know, and see quite often.

At what point did i say i cant get a long term relationship,or that i go home with guys who i meet in clubs all the time?

Yous are rippin ma knittin.

[JennyPiccolo]

Originally Posted by Strider C.R.U.X.

Although I did get to do some research last night

After 2 bottles of wine and 6 pints of cider and black Strider is NOT romantic

I can cry like a motherfucker though

you're also shite at replying to texts, greetyface.

[Ghostsuit]

Originally Posted by JennyPiccolo

Would people please stopmaking this so personal. I am in a relationship, I am perfectly able to communicate with the rest of humankind, and the article wasn't about men I've randomly met in clubs. It's about men I know, and see quite often.

At what point did i say i cant get a long term relationship,or that i go home with guys who i meet in clubs all the time?

Yous are rippin ma knittin.

In answer to this and the neg rep.

We only know what you wrote in the article!!!!! We are not mind readers, We do not know you are attached etc!!!

We have all responded to the article and you repeatedly used "me" I'm" etc, so we responded using "you". I'm sorry but I wasn't judging the choice of lifestyle you portrayed in the article, I could careless who you shag and when you shag, I was only pointing out that you can't expect to find romance in the lifestyle you alluded to. I was perhaps a little direct when offer a suggestion on how you might change the lifestyle and get out of the apparent rut, giving you a feeling that Alt lifestyle was less romantic that Hollywood lifestyle or any other.

[Strider C.R.U.X.]

Originally Posted by Kenny Everett

Red wine?

Red wine and Cider are my killer drinks, I don't like surrendering my rational nature to them.

Red AND White

Originally Posted by JennyPiccolo

you're also shite at replying to texts, greetyface.

I have a pretty good excuse, I dont have a mobile

[Bunnylingus]

"I'm (!) sick of only consummating a relationship after fourteen pints of diesel, or lying alone between bouts of intercourse while the eager young man fucks off for a joint or a game on the Playstation, or worse, to write on the forum. I'm(!) sick of chat-up lines like 'I'd cheat on my girlfriend for you' or 'It's five to three, if you were gonna pull someone better, you would have by now'. Have we always been cold, hard people, or do we just treat each other badly because that's the way we're always treated, just because we're different?"

Maybe these guys will buy ME flowers"

Well if it wasnt about you why use I and me? Sorry, what was the point that Ive missed here?

[JennyPiccolo]

i just wanted to make people look at themselves the way other look at them. It's experiences I've had before, and a way I've felt in my life, and i way i thought other females in the alternative scene may have felt.

It doesn't bear that much relevance to my life right now, but it's something i was thinking about. I wasn't looking for anyone's advice, I was tring to make them think.

[Bunnylingus]

Surely if you dont feel that way anymore then romance isnt dead, perhaps just a bit hard to find.

[Strider C.R.U.X.]

If I kill romance once and for all

will you all shut up?

[Brookie]

here here i agree!!!!!