Article: The Dating Game - Page 4

Rowsbette · 7th September 2005, 12:23pm

Many a time have I found myself sneering at vapid chick-lit, or self-help books such as The Rules in bookstores: sorely tempted to purchase them in order to enable me to find out more about the Bridget-Jones-esque dating culture I so irrationally despise. Thoughts of such a book invading my bookshelves like a bad smell (possibly even rendering my wee collection of feminist literature null and void) always convinced me to refrain from wasting my money. However, when I saw a copy of Jo Hemmings’ The Dating Game (a £9.99 book) going for a mere ten pence in Bookworld on Sauchiehall Street today, I just couldn’t resist.

On a positive note, Jo Hemmings isn’t the “how to meet Mr Right and bully him up the aisle” lady I anticipated: her attitude is more “let’s have a laugh for the moment.” It’s still, in essence, a book for women wanting men to like them. As I said in another article, the problem with the flood of relationship self-help books floating about...

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Foxglove · 7th September 2005, 3:40pm

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Originally Posted by Largest of Als

Well, if it's one of those 'day after... how are you' texts....the 10 mins is usually spent trying to remember what her name was.

Al

Hell if you can't remember her name then you probably can't remember it being any good so why waste the 12p on a text let alone 10 minutes trying to remember anything about the night before?

Largest of Als · 7th September 2005, 3:41pm

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Originally Posted by Foxglove

Hell if you can't remember her name then you probably can't remember it being any good so why waste the 12p on a text let alone 10 minutes trying to remember anything about the night before?

If it was that good, i probably wouldnt have stopped to ask her her name.....

Al

Foxglove · 7th September 2005, 3:55pm

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Originally Posted by Largest of Als

If it was that good, i probably wouldnt have stopped to ask her her name.....

Al

Touche!

**Shannow** · 7th September 2005, 4:23pm

I utterly despise the nonsense that comes with meeting someone new, and wondering if you have to be following some arcane ettiquette when meeting up with them for the first time.
Experience has taught me tha if you're having to think about these things and your not just having a comfortable chat, all is not well.

nevali · 7th September 2005, 4:45pm

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Originally Posted by Shannow

Experience has taught me tha if you're having to think about these things and your not just having a comfortable chat, all is not well.

Aye, too right.

Jesus · 28th September 2005, 11:30am

i like going out on dates. just for a drink and a chat - ive never been on a date i havnt really enjoyed................. is that strange then?

JennyPiccolo · 28th September 2005, 12:04pm

Good article, but it goes on the presumption that girls buy 'the rules' NOT to laugh at it. It's been the focus of every Saturday morning joke since somebody handed it in to my oxfam.

Woolies · 28th September 2005, 6:06pm

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Originally Posted by JennyPiccolo

somebody handed it in to my oxfam.

they're selling old AltNation Articles in Oxfam now?

Rowsbette · 28th September 2005, 7:28pm

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Originally Posted by Jesus

i like going out on dates. just for a drink and a chat - ive never been on a date i havnt really enjoyed................. is that strange then?

Na, not at all. I've nothing against the actual dates themselves, only the stupid code of dating etiquette that so many people seem to be buying into.

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Originally Posted by JennyPiccolo

Good article, but it goes on the presumption that girls buy 'the rules' NOT to laugh at it. It's been the focus of every Saturday morning joke since somebody handed it in to my oxfam.

Ta, and I'd really love to believe that theory. Alas, the horrible number of Companys and Cosmopolitanss I used to read convinced me that this whole dating malarkey isn't just some big joke.

Jesus · 28th September 2005, 10:07pm

THE DATING GAME is just a big joke- like most of life. just a shame some people dont get it

........ none of the girls ive ever been out with seemed to be following "the rules" if i thought they were id have asked them which ones.....The whole things just about getting a good quality cuddle anyway :P

**Ghostsuit** · 28th September 2005, 11:35pm

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Originally Posted by Violet Grimm

i tend to go for marbles.

If someone gave me marbles I'd know they liked me

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fallen_nemesis · 28th September 2005, 11:46pm

....lifes just a game if you really think about it.

Boydy · 29th September 2005, 12:52am

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Originally Posted by Potatojunkie

Weird, fucked up people who think it's weird and fucked up not to go on dates. Quite often they end up marrying people they don't like, just like their parents did.

I have friends like this who look down on me for not doin it ..... I tend to do the whole casual one-nighters or have secret fuckbuddy's stashed away

They just dont seem to get the fact that I aint on the same wavelength as them

I settle down when I find a girl thats right for me ... that happens by gettin to know someone as a friend and it ends up movin to the next level coz feelings are mutual rather than deciding to call someone I've met once my new girlfriend coz I "fancy them" when I barely fuckin know them

I feel perfectly complete on my own, where as my mate Dex feels lost if he aint got a girl on his arm, as soon as hes single again hes rushing out trying to find a new girl to date the very same night ... tis fucked up

Am I doin it all wrong in anybody elses eyes or is it just his ???

Rowsbette · 29th September 2005, 6:58am

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Originally Posted by Jesus

none of the girls ive ever been out with seemed to be following "the rules" if i thought they were id have asked them which ones

I'm pretty sure those things are catered so that the guys they're dating remain blissfully unaware.

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Originally Posted by Boydy

I feel perfectly complete on my own, where as my mate Dex feels lost if he aint got a girl on his arm, as soon as hes single again hes rushing out trying to find a new girl to date the very same night ... tis fucked up

Am I doin it all wrong in anybody elses eyes or is it just his ???

I think that's the best way to do it, there's something a bit depressing about people who can't seem to function properly when they're single. I was getting slagged off yesterday for my lack of "proper" relationships in general, but I see little point in being with someone for whom you only have lukewarm feelings.

Anyhow, this is more relationship stuff as opposed to dating stuff...

Jesus · 29th September 2005, 9:07am

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Originally Posted by Boydy

I have friends like this who look down on me for not doin it ..... I tend to do the whole casual one-nighters or have secret fuckbuddy's stashed away

They just dont seem to get the fact that I aint on the same wavelength as them

I settle down when I find a girl thats right for me ... that happens by gettin to know someone as a friend and it ends up movin to the next level coz feelings are mutual rather than deciding to call someone I've met once my new girlfriend coz I "fancy them" when I barely fuckin know them

I feel perfectly complete on my own, where as my mate Dex feels lost if he aint got a girl on his arm, as soon as hes single again hes rushing out trying to find a new girl to date the very same night ... tis fucked up

Am I doin it all wrong in anybody elses eyes or is it just his ???

you could probably change his mind by "shareing the wealth"