Marriage - Page 11

star girl · 17th May 2008, 11:01am

I think marrage is a good idea but you can never tell if your going to be with the same person forever! me and a ex spoke about it before even planned a date we would like to do it but even though we loved each other and lived together very soon in to our relationship but we split up and neither of us thought that would happen but it did. Although in hindsight we were not that suited but i wouldnt change anything i think he is much happier now and so am i.

StuntGirl · 17th May 2008, 12:48pm

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Originally Posted by Rhöna of the Rhein

It just doesn't make much sense to my mind to apply these rights pretty much across the board.

They aren't being applied across the board though, judicial desicions on the matter so far have been really flexible with regards to "relationship variables" (if you want to call them that) and personal situation.

If they were being applied in the same fashion [verbatim, then i'd have a problem, but since it's almost being taken on a case by case approach I say on you go, good stuff. Besides, I'm of the belief that if one party wants to enforce their rights and they succeed in doing that then good for them, regardless of whether they were testing their relationship out or not. It's a dog eat dog world and you cant spend five years (for example) of your youth/money/prospects/personal living space without expecting to get some recompense for the sofa/washing machine/cat that you bought together.

But them i'm a cynical bitch and i'm just thinking of all the extra lovely money it'll bring in for us future lawyers

autoclav1.1 · 2nd June 2008, 1:02am

I a 34 now...I was nearly married once...

one day i guess I want to be... but then I aint in a relationship at all so

detours · 2nd June 2008, 5:20am

You know, i've never really thought about getting married. I've never daydreamed about getting hitched, cutting a wedding cake, or going on a honey moon. None of that stuff. I have, however, thought about all the warm and fuzzy domestic stuff that goes with having a serious relationship.

I suppose that's all because i don't feel the need to get married. I understand that for some people, that's the ultimate form of commitment. They need it to feel like they've cemented their relationship. And it's probably a good idea for those who either have or plan on having children, if only for legal benefits and to protect the kids.

But knowing that the person i'm with is as serious about our relationship as i am is enough for me. If i end up with someone who really wants a marriage, then i might consider it. Maybe.

Eh. Whatever. To each their own, right?

*Charlie Parker* · 2nd June 2008, 9:07am

the romance of marriage is bollocks. Wedding cakes and shit are just ways of folk getting your money.

Goth_pixie · 2nd June 2008, 9:23am

Don't forget the present list, though. On a purely mercenary level, it might be worth doing just for the gifts.

Ours would probably just be clothes and computer games though. We're children.

Fenntastic · 2nd June 2008, 10:43am

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Originally Posted by Charlie Parker

the romance of marriage is bollocks. Wedding cakes and shit are just ways of folk getting your money.

not if you do it yourself, with help from friends and family. my mum, me and my sister did my sisters wedding cake. me and my mum did all the flowers. my aunt made the bridesmaids dresses. all for a fraction of the cost of getting a professional to do it, and no-one mentioned anything other than how nice they all were.

*Charlie Parker* · 2nd June 2008, 10:46am

I made my suit out of tree bark and molasses

karbon14 · 2nd June 2008, 10:47am

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Originally Posted by Fenntastic

not if you do it yourself, with help from friends and family. my mum, me and my sister did my sisters wedding cake. me and my mum did all the flowers. my aunt made the bridesmaids dresses. all for a fraction of the cost of getting a professional to do it, and no-one mentioned anything other than how nice they all were.

because it often happens at wedding that comments such as "what the fuck is that bridge wearing" "jeez did we get the wedding cake from greggs" or "wow, i didn't realise you could pay pikeys to steal flowers from folks gardens for your wedding".

MarkMono · 2nd June 2008, 10:49am

Free party, lots of presents, good food, much fine wine, girl in hot dress.

Whats not to like?

I know people that spend more on holidays that they come home miserable from.

Fenntastic · 2nd June 2008, 10:53am

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Originally Posted by karbon14

because it often happens at wedding that comments such as "what the fuck is that bridge wearing" "jeez did we get the wedding cake from greggs" or "wow, i didn't realise you could pay pikeys to steal flowers from folks gardens for your wedding".

you would be surprised. people enjoy bitching about stuff like that. one person bitched about the meal but everything else was praised.
also, there wasnt a bridge. particularly not a dressed one....