Marriage - Page 6

StuntGirl · 15th May 2008, 3:19pm

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Originally Posted by Vonnie

A huge factor for us was that if anything were to happen to Bob, I wouldn't have been entitled to his pension under the terms of it. That's despite having his children, sharing a mortgage and home with him and everything else that comes with a committed relationship. It wasn't the only reason; I also wanted to have the same name as our children and I really wanted the school/nursery etc to get my name right when they talk to me. Most of all, I wanted recognition of our partnership. None of these are the sole reason we got married but it all added up.

See, that kinda makes sense. I understand why people who have kids do it, although i don't necessarily agree that you should have to be married to enjoy certain benefits. I'm fairly certain the pension thing is the subject of future reform though.

poprock · 15th May 2008, 3:26pm

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Originally Posted by StuntGirl

I'm fairly certain the pension thing is the subject of future reform though.

Depends on who’s in power at any given time, really. The Conservatives are all about giving extra benefits and breaks to married couples, for example.

Bunnylingus · 15th May 2008, 3:30pm

I dont want to get married. If I do, it'll be when Im much older, as in, 50s.

Dont believe in monogamy, and I'm bitter.

Dec · 15th May 2008, 3:35pm

Only if my conditions regarding food, music and attire are met. I'm fucked if they are mind.

stripey_kitten · 15th May 2008, 4:59pm

I honestly don't have an answer to the question of why I got married. I suppose it seemed like a good idea at the time and I am glad that I married the infuriating bastard. Our wedding cost less than a grand as far as I can remember so I also agree with the view that it only costs as much as you want it to.

Rhöna of the Rhein · 15th May 2008, 5:26pm

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Originally Posted by StuntGirl

Besides, co-habitants have almost all the same legal benefits and securities as married couples now, so there really is no need, IMO.

That's a particular point of law I find difficulty with. Just to generalise for a moment, people tend to move in together as the step before marriage to 'test the water' of their relationship i.e. they're not quite ready to take the legal commitment of marriage just yet.

Ultimately marriage is a contract, which cohabiting couples have opted not to go into just yet (or at all) so if they have made such a conscious decision to avoid the legal consequence of marriage, why should they be offered such rights at all?

Cohabitation rights, in my 'umble opinion, are something of an invasion of privacy and undermine the institution of marriage.

**djtoast** · 15th May 2008, 5:49pm

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Originally Posted by Jaemi

Stag weekend in Vegas.

heh. i've been on one of those but i got there a day later than everyone else, and after the hardcore first night, they mostly just wanted to sit quietly sipping soft drinks in a room full of nekkid women

MarkMono · 15th May 2008, 6:00pm

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Originally Posted by Dec

Only if my conditions regarding food, music and attire are met. I'm fucked if they are mind.

My only condition was that the music had to be good.

Skybaby · 15th May 2008, 6:51pm

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Originally Posted by stripey_kitten

I honestly don't have an answer to the question of why I got married. I suppose it seemed like a good idea at the time and I am glad that I married the infuriating bastard. Our wedding cost less than a grand as far as I can remember so I also agree with the view that it only costs as much as you want it to.

Mine cost about 4.5k which is still 1.5k less than my friends honeymoon is costing. The cost of the average wedding is sickening and more than enough to put you off.

StuntGirl · 15th May 2008, 7:29pm

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Originally Posted by Rhöna of the Rhein

That's a particular point of law I find difficulty with. Just to generalise for a moment, people tend to move in together as the step before marriage to 'test the water' of their relationship i.e. they're not quite ready to take the legal commitment of marriage just yet.

Ultimately marriage is a contract, which cohabiting couples have opted not to go into just yet (or at all) so if they have made such a conscious decision to avoid the legal consequence of marriage, why should they be offered such rights at all?

Cohabitation rights, in my 'umble opinion, are something of an invasion of privacy and undermine the institution of marriage.

I'd have to disagree with you there.

If marriage is ultimately a contract then surely cohabitation is an implied contract and therefore the parties should be subject to the same benefits and responsibilities if they choose to take advantage of them? And as for cohabitation rights being an invasion of privacy, surely judicial discretion so far has indicated that rights of the cohabitant are "imposed" only when certain conditions are met (i.e. length of time together, living as married), so it's hardly a case of them being applied all over the shop.

cohabitating with someone is not in any way "less" than marriage after a point, so why should it be treated as such? fewer and fewer people opt to get married these days any way, so should they be denied rights with their partner because they dont believe in some archaic bullshit and make a valid lifestyle choice? I dont think so.

poprock · 15th May 2008, 7:36pm

If you want the law to recognise you as a couple, sign a legally binding contract. I don’t see what’s so complicated about that.

You can get married without any of the ‘archaic bullshit’ if you want to, especially so in Scotland. Technically, you can do it for about £250 all-in if you really only want the legal recognition and nothing else.

cookie · 15th May 2008, 7:40pm

I see marriage in my distant future - if I find someone that I feel I could be happy with for the rest of my life. There's so much I want to do in life before I even contemplate making that kind of commitment with anyone.