Sexually Transmitted Diseases/Infections

[mischief]

Originally Posted by Zenith

you can be as careful as u can be, accidents still happen, and unfortunately did for me a few years back. did the sensible thing got checked out and informed folk most stressful thing i've ever done tbh. not ashamed in the slightest, since it was exactly that, an accident.

ever since, im very very wary, even with condoms, i still like to get a check just to make sure, and get the guy checked.

A similar thing happened to a good mate a couple of years ago, she had unprotected sex with her boyfriend at the time (who claimed to be a virgin) and ended up with an STI. Seeing her go through this & my distinct lack of trust of most male types, makes getting checked out the sensible thing to do.

[Cypria]

Originally Posted by Witch

my first boyfriend was a virgin as was i but we still used condoms until we knew each other

My fiance used condoms with his first gf and i was on my patch and we stuck to condoms until we knew each other, i thin ive been really smart

NOT smart... hear me out:

With all due respect... and this is not only for you but for a myriad of other fools I've heard or seen, using the same irrational approach:

If one of your partners were to have an STI, getting to know him was not going to make it go away.

I cringe each time on that one, cuz I have been more than once put under pressure where a partner would insist on not using a condom and tell me something like: ''it's not like we don't know each other - this is the third, fourth, whatever time we're doing it''

Does it say ''moron'' on my forehead??

(well maybe it does sometimes, but that would be for different reasons LOL !!)

[Devastator]

I think I might go and get checked again for a LOL.

[Fenntastic]

Originally Posted by Devastator

I think I might go and get checked again for a LOL.

dare you to tell your boyfriend you've caught something. DARE YE! it'd be funny and you know it.

[Devastator]

He'd probably in fact smack me upside the head and not laugh

[stripey_kitten]

Originally Posted by Cypria

If one of your partners were to have an STI, getting to know him was not going to make it go away.

Obviously talking will not made an STI go away but I don't think that's exactly the point that was being made. Getting to know someone who you are sleeping with and who you are considering not using condoms with would, I expect, involve talking about your sexual histories, discussing going to get tested and hopefully doing so. Personally I think this is a very responsible thing to do.

[Fenntastic]

Originally Posted by Devastator

He'd probably in fact smack me upside the head and not laugh

that sucks. do it anyway and see. infact wait, tell him your pregnant too, and the baby is black!

[Devastator]

He'd be OVER THE MOON!

[Fenntastic]

excellent

[Zenith]

Originally Posted by mischief

A similar thing happened to a good mate a couple of years ago, she had unprotected sex with her boyfriend at the time (who claimed to be a virgin) and ended up with an STI. Seeing her go through this & my distinct lack of trust of most male types, makes getting checked out the sensible thing to do.

well i'd like to re-interate, mine wasn't unprotected, it was a case of protection having failed etc

[mischief]

Originally Posted by Zenith

well i'd like to re-interate, mine wasn't unprotected, it was a case of protection having failed etc

Yeah, I appreciate it wasn't the same circumstances, I was more meaning that what she went through/had to deal with was similar to yourself.

[Pantgirl]

Gah I need to do all this. Dreading it ultimately. All this chat of cervical cancer and HPV is giving me the willies (haha) I remember my mum had a doidgy smear test when I was in 3rd year. Meh. Do the Sandyford do a drop in smear stuff or do you have to make appointments? I just don't have the time during the week And the whole "Don't have sex with people with HPV" how do ou know if they have it? And if they have it but it is dormant and you sleep unproteted with them will you get HPV (I love asking random questions that will never happen) See I knew I shouldnt have read this thread first thing in the morning...my veins are retratcing at the possibility of a blood test. Meep!

[Zenith]

Originally Posted by Pantgirl

Gah I need to do all this. Dreading it ultimately. All this chat of cervical cancer and HPV is giving me the willies (haha) I remember my mum had a doidgy smear test when I was in 3rd year. Meh. Do the Sandyford do a drop in smear stuff or do you have to make appointments? I just don't have the time during the week And the whole "Don't have sex with people with HPV" how do ou know if they have it? And if they have it but it is dormant and you sleep unproteted with them will you get HPV (I love asking random questions that will never happen) See I knew I shouldnt have read this thread first thing in the morning...my veins are retratcing at the possibility of a blood test. Meep!

yeah just go to their normal drop in service, thats available

[Cypria]

Originally Posted by stripey_kitten

Obviously talking will not made an STI go away but I don't think that's exactly the point that was being made. Getting to know someone who you are sleeping with and who you are considering not using condoms with would, I expect, involve talking about your sexual histories, discussing going to get tested and hopefully doing so. Personally I think this is a very responsible thing to do.

From what I could read in thes post, strictly the ''getting to know each other'' part was underlined as to be the deciding factor to go ahead without protection. I just went with what I saw.

Of course it's wise to talk about your history, etc. But obviously until both get tested and are clear of any disease, and commit to an exclusive relationship based on monogamy, or polygamy/polyamorous with clear agreement to always use protection outside their couple, only then is it safe. Regardless of how much talking and getting to know each other you do...

[Purplerose]

http://www.sandyford.org/

check out the website for any info